Information for parents and grandparents
Divorce, parents and children
Divorce is obviously a difficult time for parents and children alike. On the index of life stress, divorce is one of the most substantial life events. Its impact can last many years, even a lifetime, and it can cause relationships between parents and children to deteriorate, even into adulthood.
In terms of relationships with children, in the worst case, parents can find that they may not have access to their children at all. This causes parents to become depressed and they may even find that their life has lost an important process.
Even if access is not lost, parents may find that restrictive access conditions are placed so that they can only see children at certain times of the day, or days of the week.
It is important that you remember the following in the early stages of a divorce:-
Why mediation can help Grandparents
Mediation is one of the best ways to make sure that divorce has less of an impact on the relationship between you and your ex-partner, and importantly, between you and your children. Mediation is usually required by courts. Only in exceptional circumstances will a judge allow a case to be taken to court without initial mediation information meetings. Mediation is a process that involves a series of meetings with a qualified, experienced, mediator.
After initial meetings to establish the process, you will be involved in meetings between you and your partner with an experienced mediator. The purpose of these meetings is to determine a final agreement that you can both mutually sign.
This is very useful in terms of relationships between parents and children:-
Parenting plans can include:-
The role of grandparents
Advice to grandparents:-
• Make sure that you know what is being discussed in terms of your grandchildren. Mediation can help to ensure that your grandchildren have a safe and secure future.
• You can be included in the mediation process. For example, the mediator will talk to you about what mediation involves.
• Make sure that you still see your grandchildren on a regular basis.
• Try to keep up with familiar routines. If you used to pick up your grandchildren after school before the divorce, try to maintain this pattern.